Lies we Believe about the Christian Single

Having been “never married” for my nearly 50 years of life, by choice,  I have gained some vast first-hand insight, having been on the receiving end of a pretty broad range of assumptions from those who often make a swinging attempt to sum up the world of “singlehood” trying to understand it like it’s something easy to explain by their one and only viewpoint. Some of this ideation that has been given often without invitation sits somewhere on the grid of absolute encouragement and confirmation all the way to the opposite end with a summary of preconceived notions falling flat of any kind of reality – even down right insulting with ridiculous conclusions.

I know I am not alone, and on behalf of those that have encountered the same, my objective is to give a few responses to these assumptions and shed some light about what’s going on in the plain of reality.

As someone who doesn’t like to be branded a type of anything other than a highly unique individual, I get very weary of being classified as married, or single, or widowed, or divorced, as if the only way to file a person’s identity is by their marital status. The fact of the matter is, we are all people, above and beyond that of a marital status, and according to God’s Word, there are benefits to marriage AND to singleness, but often times others reach to marriage for reasons other than a true solid wise choice in order to fill up with something they are missing.

How many stories of those that got married thinking that this was the next step in life, and the cure for their ailments, find out that they have now compounded their existing issues with involving another imperfect human being into the equation? Being whole as a person above and beyond marriage is a highly favorable state to be in as it allows us to function as an individual dependent on the Lord as our source. Marriage can either compliment that, or, it can actually subtract from that in some cases.  Fortunately some of us had that one figured out a long time before we were faced with the decision to marry, yet still, we are faced with some pretty interesting thoughts from others and the following responses are designed for understanding, from what I typically have seen has been the case for many – wrong assumptions.

THE LIES WE BELIEVE ABOUT SINGLENESS:

“You must be anxious for marriage. Isn’t attending weddings hard for you? You are attractive and funny, but not married, what’s wrong with you? You must not be ‘ready’ yet for marriage (aka; mature enough).”

My response: Oh please …  aren’t we all adults here and able to think outside the box? Hello, this is the 21st century folks. By now, have we not seen that the average age for marrying has shifted to “much later in life” than ever before? And news flash, much of it is by choice and not because there is something wrong, or that we aren’t mature enough, or that we are secretly gay,  or that we aren’t good enough, or whatever other thing is assumed about someone else who is not just like the others that want to head to the altar.  Some of us have had some rip-roaring rough interactions with the opposite sex in our lives and marriage looks more like a noose around the neck, rather than a haven of partnership.

If anything, waiting for the right time and place to marry in our lives, even if much later, is a strong indication of wisdom, depth, and character about approaching carefully a decision that can shape the rest of a person’s life. If one happens to marry earlier and it’s successful, praise be to God, but, for those that have a mission before and outside of marriage for the time being or even for life, as well, praise be to Him. I stand in awe and in deep solid respect for marriage, so that is one area, I simply choose to approach with a reverent caution, not only to allow God’s perfect timing, but to allow myself and someone I may meet, to evolve to that place of being ready. We can be the most mature people in the world, but marriage requires a much steeper demand on those that are feeling particularly drawn to it in the immediate realm. Two different callings, with two very different lists of what is required for both – so the lesson here, and please let it stick >>>> being single doesn’t mean something is broken, and that marriage is the fix.

Let’s not forget one other factor. Life is vastly different from the 1940s, 50s, and 60s and we surely can’t exclude the blended family life out there. Blending lives can be a major gift for some and yet a tough area forced upon others. That can and does influence us vastly as to decisions on even wanting to look at marriage as an option for ourselves due to the “what-if” factor. Realistically, what is woefully apparent here is that we teach that marriage is easy to get out of with an attorney and disillusionment of marriage, but in the spiritual realm, it truly is a tearing asunder and it changes the fabric of a person’s history to one they didn’t necessarily plan on. Anymore, we allow an easy out and it’s not unusual for someone who has reached middle age to have been married and divorced more than once by the age of 40. So pardon me if some of us decide that it’s not necessarily the best option in the world for our every day in and day out of existence.

For me personally, having witnessed first hand or having seen the fall out of sixteen divorces in my immediate family, including that of my own parents, my enthusiasm for wedded bliss has been pretty much been rendered at the level of zilch for such a sacred act. As I said before, I respect it, I’m just not sure it’s for me right now, or even ever. Not everyone will respond such as I have, some will embrace marriage and have a successful and balanced experience with it, however, some have known the plague of the aftermath of a the divorce generational curse.

“Maybe you are afraid to get married – aren’t you lonely?”

One of the most critical and rare truths that we might completely forget and seem to look down on is that SOME of us are actually CALLED to singleness and are vastly fulfilled in that calling. Didn’t Paul pose the fact in I Corinthians that it is “good to remain even as I” – meaning single, and focused on God’s work and that it is indeed meant to imply that there are advantages to this life than to that of marriage. Look up the word “good” in the passages Paul wrote on the subject and you will be met with a deep definition in the Greek that will set the record straight! Unwed means time for the work of the Lord (aka: fun, travel, freedom, peace, etc), although marriage itself is also the work of the Lord, yes, more often we are busy trying to please an imperfect partner as opposed to being able to please a perfect God. This is exactly what Paul meant in the Word. Often times when I have given a relationship a spin, I have found it to be a complete distraction and almost invariably a means to an end for heartbreak I never wanted to invite into my world to begin with – I have learned a great deal from bad and good relationships.

Recently in the news, Vice President Mike Pence was criticized for being so “extreme” in his conservative approach about honoring his wife. The guy is trying to remain pure and true to his bride, and naturally, the media who is blatantly liberal, would make a mockery of such an incredible gesture of depth and wisdom. For the love, media, do you always twist something sacred into a sin? If I may take the liberty, fellow Christians, you also have a tendency to turn the call to singleness into something “extreme”, or wrong, as if it’s a sin or that we aren’t settled down or avoiding true bliss that we could possibly be partaking in. But some of us just don’t feel that it’s bliss … I see more work than I do harmony in most marriages. Let’s not twist God’s goodness and providence for another to look like a handicap when in fact, it’s quite the opposite. Chew on that for a bit.

“You are divorced. What happened you failure you?”

So much goes into the reason of divorce, and often we hear that one person wanted out while the other fought hard to keep it together. What if the single you are making remarks to had indeed wanted to stay married and fought hard to keep things together? What if they are in anguish and feeling trampled at the moment with being rejected? What good does it do to remind them of what they don’t have and have longed for?

I hate divorce, it has been a huge part of the fabric of my life with 17 divorces in my immediate family, but just as much, I have seen some that never truly wanted a split have to face the fact it’s over.  It’s a sad day when a certificate of divorce is issued, and my advice to others, is to take some time to imagine what it would be like if their spouse decided to part ways against their will, or if even something extreme happened to tear them apart. Putting ourselves into the shoes of another with situations that are different from ours can help us use a little sympathy and consideration to keep quiet and not blame and point fingers.

“You are a widow. Have you thought of dating someone else? You can love again – let’s set you up on a date.”

What if they are a widow, and it’s a wickedly raw time for them grieving the loss of one not even wanting to entertain the thought of remarriage, yet, everyone around them is trying to push them into something new before they are ready?

Give people room, to not have to owe an explanation and to not have to prove anything with being in a relationship. Maybe they are profoundly lonely and might like to meet someone? Yet, maybe it’s not your place to pull that out of them. Give them time to offer up that desire if it’s meant to be, and, for all intents and purposes, make sure to pray first about the person they will meet and possibly even decide to marry. Sometimes remarriage after being widowed can pose an interesting new dynamic for them. Proceed with caution.  I have seen some great successes and have also witnessed some abysmal disasters in post widow marriages.

“You don’t have children, you must feel empty and sad. You never gave your parents children, they must be grieving.”

If there has ever been one that is as stinging and wickedly demeaning, but not for reasons you might think, it’s been this type of ridiculous assumption that blatantly proves a lack of basic 101 manners and couth. Maybe a man or woman was married and is single now and had a harrowing issue with infertility to the point they divorced. Maybe someone truly wanted children more than anything else, and they DO want marriage FIRST before babies, but God has not brought that into their lives yet. What if someone has had to survive and look back on an assault in their lives that yielded an unwanted pregnancy they elected to allow to come to full term and then gave up that little one for adoption? The list goes on and on of the what ifs. What a field of landmines we step onto when we make such strong judgements of others we know so very little about.

My advice to those that don’t understand –  just don’t go there.

Remember Hannah in the Word who was in earnest pain over wanting a child and was constantly harassed by Peninnah over Hannah’s lack of ability to conceive. Hannah was far more holy than I would have been, as I probably would have knocked Peninnah backwards for her verbal heckling. Be careful about inflaming a wound … steer clear and don’t be a Peninnah … a source of greater pain and immature annoyance, for you might warrant a response you weren’t prepared to receive.

Then there are those of us that never were really given the basic DNA to desire children. Yes, it crosses our minds, and yes we have the makings of a mother’s heart, but it’s not something we feel we missed out on. I am abundantly aware of the work that goes into marriage and parenting, but often if one is called to other things, the Lord gives that one a very satisfying life that even viewing children as a part of, would be an impairment, rather than a necessary part of the picture. The desire has simply not been there in the womb to want to procreate and know for a fact that myriads share that same viewpoint. If one wants children, generally they are wired and want to live up to all the demands that parenting requires.

Rarely do I share this and am careful for the sake of respect, but for the topic at hand someone else might be able to identify with my experience. One of my beloved family members gave me a look years ago, sneering about my proof of lack to provide a grandchild for my parents. Yes, I forgive, but truly, my respect dropped a hundred notches for them for their unwarranted and demeaning comment that nearly sliced me in half.  God was about to usher an amazing season into my life after that, and had kept me to Himself for that very reason.  I wouldn’t have skipped what the Lord was about to bless me with for that of a wedding ring, even if it were wrapped in Tiffany blue with a dazzling man to offer it to me on one knee with a Bentley as a getaway car. There will be time for that later, if it’s meant to be. The alternative gift God gave for the time being, was far superior to my being married at the time.

“You are single, you must struggle financially and need a man to take care of you. Your knight in shining armor has yet to come along.” 

Eyes rolling and a sigh. This is 2017 not 1960. Let’s make something clear, it’s not that we women don’t want or need men, it’s rather the fact we have more opportunities open to us to make money in this particular day and age then ever before, married or not, so finances really aren’t going to be so much a part of the decision to marry like they used to be. So many women jumped from home with their parents as their caretakers into a home with a husband as their caretaker. Not that this is bad, it could have worked out great for many, but sometimes women got married, just to get married, to escape the home, and then ended up in very unhappy situations, even abusive ones, and with few learned skills in order to make it on their own if faced with that challenge later after divorce. It’s a bitter pill to rely on someone else when it’s not God’s plan or His best.

Personally, I just cleared well over seven figures in my little company in revenue. No man did it, but God and God alone through my fingers, through ridiculously unmercifully hard work, and with the aid of incredibly talented souls I have hired to do it along with me. My clients are fabulous and I serve them with zeal and commitment, as a perfectly imperfect woman. I have much to be grateful for in this growth cycle, but not sure if marriage would have aided or hindered this amazing business experience for me and so many that benefited from it.

Most of the small start-up businesses in America, are founded, run and managed by … women. The majority of women outlive men, so at some point, they will be single again even if they marry. Look it up as statistics and data speak for themselves! Does it mean, we wouldn’t welcome some relief financially along with the blessing of companionship and someone to love at some point? No, but the options for truly Godly men to marry any more, are pretty rare. Women have been forced to do what they have to in order to care for themselves – so chew on that one one awhile.

And can we please drop the knight in shining armor life of paradise? People, that is the world of Barbie and Ken. Yes, I know there are some tremendous marriages out there, but we set our girls and boys up for a huge let down and unrealistic expectations teaching them to pin their hopes on a person alone, rather than that of the man Jesus Christ who never disappoints.  Then when man disappoints, we bail out! No we should never settle, but again, we need to be careful about making someone fit the role of a saint that is just as capable of the same issues of failures and triumphs we ourselves have – no one is capable of fixing another person. Also along that line, let’s stop pressuring individuals we might set up, as if they need to walk out of their first date with an engagement ring on and a wedding date set. It’s ridiculous and I personally avoid being “hooked up” on dates because of that type of pressure alone. The last time I did, I allowed myself to stay in a relationship far too long as to not disappoint everyone around me and it ended up being a very painful ending for he and I when we realized this was not the right match. Having once been the people pleaser I was, yes it can really go that far – I was engaged as he was an excellent candidate for a husband, but we simply were not compatitble over all. No one can choose for me what only God can with the perfect fit.

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My hope is that your brief read through this will give you insight and open new understanding that marriage isn’t a fit for everyone just as singleness isn’t either. Let’s support each other, not put a label of inferiority on either situation, as we all have a calling to fulfill be it with a spouse on earth or a Spouse that is perfect out of heaven. Pray and think before speaking … and …  remember what assume spells …

Read my previous blog – “To Married Men Who Cheat”

https://reannring.wordpress.com/2016/05/02/to-married-men-who-cheat/

 

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Vital Steps to a Successful Business

THREE STEPS TO STARTING A SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS

Countless people have approached me and asked about “how to” steps for their ownideas and interests for starting and managing a successful business. As an entrepreneur for over 20 years, aiding others in, or spear-heading my own start-up businesses, ranging from one-of-a-kind creations all the way to service-oriented ventures on-line, I opened up my “portfolio of collected experiences” and found three vital steps that have carried me from the inception of a new business idea all the way through to the launch and continuum of growth in any new or growing venture.

1. Prayer:

Oh what we miss out on in blessings and what could have been prevented, if only we had participated in the language of prayer. One area of prayer is about timing, about when and even if it’s right to start and execute a new endeavor especially under the guidance of the Creator of the Universe. Ecclesiastes 3 says that there is a “season fore verything” indicating that timing is a critical part of life and that there is a rhythm to the law of the harvest that intertwines with this truth. Knowing how your idea or product would fit into that rhythm is vital.The Lord may have an idea He has lent to you, but maybe it’s not until next fall that would be on point to get things rolling, maybe it’s tomorrow He wants you to start, or maybe your product idea could be a million dollar winner, but needs to be tweaked and placed into a specific niche market that could only be understood through the process of listening to the prompting of the Holy Spirit of God. Proverbs 1:20-33 says that wisdom is “shouting in the streets” and whenever Scriptures says something in a dramatic fashion such as “shouting”, it’s best to understand that we need to be completely open and quiet and listening to God’s voice.

I think He has to shout because we are too busy talking and our minds too enthralled with plans, to slow down and hear Him. We can get so carried away by enthusiasm that we get ahead of the process, miss out on ingredients that make the final outcome a smashing success, skip inviting others in to help, and then spend time in bitterness and anger bewildered as to how we flopped and lost out on the investment of time and money, simply because we didn’t pray, didn’t listen, and didn’t plan accordingly for the right timing. If this has happened to you, learn from it, and get up on your feet and try again the right way.

2. Seek out a personal Elisha:

II Kings 4:1-7, tells us the true story of a desperate widow who sought counsel from the

well known prophet Elisha, as to how to prevent the creditor from taking her children as

slave laborers to pay off a sizable debt she owed. Elisha quickly pointed her in the

direction of what she already owned, a pot of oil, that became of value after she put it to

use via God’s hand. It was multiplied nearly over night and cleared her debt entirely, but

the point is, she needed to have someone point her in the way, and then she had to get

busy with that small pot of investment to get the maximum benefit it had to offer.

When I see a true story like that, it whips me to attention! The Lord loves to use people

to help other people as the mutual reward in any relationship, and seeking out

experienced counsel has a vastly rewarding dynamic we could miss if we didn’t reach

out and ask for help. Imagine if the widow kept trying to fix things on her own. There are

experienced gurus in business that would love to indulge in teaching us in the way that

they have learned and could prevent us from making collasol mistakes, not to mention,

as Elisha did the widow, teach us how to cut corners for a vast and faster profit. If we

skip this opportunity, not only do we miss out on gleaning methods of high return, but

we could also miss out on contacts and privileges in ways that we would otherwise not

be given simply through the connection itself. We don’t need to go in as a know-it-all,

and humbling ourselves to learn from a fellow willing entrepreneur dynamo could make

all the difference in the world.

3. Do your due diligence: This means do your home work fully before you embark.

Following after step two, one pivotal area I learned from, from one of my personal

Elisha’s in business has been the great Robert Kiyosaki #RichDad. This man has been

one of the single greatest influences in the marketing world to date. Having adhered to

his principles of laying down the proper ground work of due diligence before launching a

business, such as researching what is working in the market and how I could duplicate

that idea instead of reinventing the wheel with a new product, seeking out tax advisors

and setting up tax entities correctly, preparing for and planning for economic down

turns, and so much more, I am ecstatic to report that my business sales have soared

from the thousands in income, to well into seven figures collectively over a shorter time

span than I could have ever imagined. This wasn’t learned at home from my family, it

was learned through Robert while putting his teaching into action.

I highly recommend Kiyosaki’s books as part of your process of due diligence, ‘Rich

Dad Poor Dad’ and ‘Cash Flow Quadrant’, to gain life altering insight. I was enlightened

to information never heard of once I cracked open the cover of Kiyosaki’s work of

wisdom and further indulged in audio recordings of his talks with fellow gurus in his

sphere of influence that helped him along the way. What a learning curve to realize we

can go from clock punching employees to a business owners and investor viewing

money as a means to an end and not as a god that rules our lives because we don’t

have any. But what won me most about Kyosaki’s leadership was that he teaches

making the Lord your business partner and being faithful to tithe and give of our profit

where others can benefit. Having the Lord as a Business Partner, that is the best

alliance I can imagine.

When we involve our Lord God, the One Who owns it all anyway, and humble ourselves

as a student of others far more advanced than we are, then we will know when to

venture out at the right time, in the right place, having done our calculated risk

assessment through due diligence, and can invest our energy, time, talent, and

resources to make a business everything our Father meant it to be.

Stay tuned for my upcoming series of blogs that will teach the next steps of advice in

order to create a million dollar business.

For hourly individual or project consulting services – feel free to contact me directly:

reann@reannring.com

ReAnn Ring

Consultant for Safire Productions

Founder of Fresh Press – II Kings 4:1-7

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Rare Recording of Details of Corrie ten Boom’s Life

April 1995, marks the date that the Lord spoke His words into my life and set a direction for the future where I would never be the same. Pam Rosewell Moore, pictured with me on the right in the photo included, was assistant, traveling companion and nurse to Corrie ten Boom for the last seven years of her life. That day in April when she spoke as keynote speaker about her own testimony, entitled, Safer Than a Known Way, of the blending of her calling of missions with service to the ArchBishop of Africa, Brother Andrew of God’s Smuggler, and finally, Corrie ten Boom, made an indelible impression on all of us.  It was that day that the Lord inscribed on the tablet of my heart a desire to serve Him wholly and without reserve when I heard His mind-bending whisper, “I have a plan for your life”.

Immediately after that conference, the weekend that changed absolutely everything, fast forward through 17 years to include myriads of studies in God’s Word as a student turned Bible teacher, speaker, entrepreneur, and television personality, never dreaming that the Lord was about to touch my inscribed heart of Corrie’s and Pam’s story, with an addendum of His will to serve Pam as her assistant. The Lord spoke again one morning during a very dark time of my life, almost out of nowhere, and directed my steps with, “go help her” – meaning help Pam Moore and the ministry in which she now still operates.

Feeling unworthy of His call, and after a thorough search online, there popped into view contact information for Pam, and nearly four months later after much correspondence between us, I was quickly gleaning an idea how the Lord was asking me to help her. It became obvious that I was to be one of many to carry the torch of Corrie’s message forward blending my own calling now with serving Pam in the current status, if you will, as her right arm and unconditionally loving devoted sister. Upon my first visit to her home per her invitation, we were knit at the heart, and I have never looked back. The assistant to the assistant to the Corrie ten Boom? Never dreamed it … Pam often speaks and shares her books on her own story and that of Corrie’s all over the country and has in other parts of the world, and, need I say, I absolutely adore this woman and her beloved husband whom she cherishes. One of my greatest joys has been to travel with her as she speaks and doing research on more of the ministry, and beyond my ability to even know to pray for something like this in the way of work, God has unfolded His promise of the words He whispered to me so many years ago of His yet-to-discover plan.

It is most enthralling and humbling at the prospect of being a part of a ministry for several years now that has touched millions of lives since the post-Holocaust missionary Corrie’s story hit the scene with books and films surrounding around the theme of The Hiding Place. If you, my reader, are not familiar with this story, I heavily encourage you to look into Amazon for the book and film, and prepare yourself for a mammoth blessing! It’s one of the most highly anointed stories still bearing momentum and weight even now all of these years later. It’s timeless.

In November 2016 in Pigeon Forge, Tennessee, Pam and I both attended a women’s conference where she shared her testimony and a glimpse of life with Corrie in front of an audience of hundreds. We receive inquiries from all over the world about the historical WWII survivor story as well as many stories people share that met, knew and loved the Ten Boom Family. Your’s truly had the blessed privilege to share a question and answer session with Pam on some of the amusing, painful, and most powerful inside details of Corrie’s life during that time they traveled and lived together all the way to the end of the journey. We hope this will answer many of the questions people have asked for so long. Enjoy our recorded session, and may you be greatly touched, as I was, on the work of the Lord that has influenced over 70 years of followers. It is my deepest joy to share what our God has given in order to carry the torch and pass it on to anyone who will listen. Click link to listen >>>>: Pam Moore and ReAnn Ring

As an added note, if you would like to hear that very conference talk Pam did that we heard in April of 1995, the three part recording from the 1995 tape-to-cd-to mp3 copy of her testimony is included here. It’s the old school flip tape style so it has a shorter section that is part two from the back side of tape one, but you will hear the entirely of the message over the three links. Enjoy – you will be blessed!

SAFER THAN A KNOWN WAY PART ONE

SAFER THAN A KNOWN WAY – PART TWO

SAFER THAN A KNOWN WAY – PART THREE

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15 Highlights from the 2016 National Geographic Nature Photographer of the Year Contest — TwistedSifter

Last call for entries! Contest closes Friday November 4, 2016 National Geographic invites photographers from around the world to enter the 2016 Nature Photographer of the Year contest. The grand-prize winner will receive a 10-day trip for two to the Galápagos with National Geographic Expeditions and two 15-minute image portfolio reviews with National…

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Under the Micropscope

Challenge: To take our eyes off of everyone else and put them squarely back on Jesus. To work on our own personal growth while not losing sight to care and pray for others. Can you imagine if we spent as much time introspectively on ourselves for improvement as opposed to self-righteously pointing at and blaming everyone else and be ultra concerned about seeking the heart of and pleasing Jesus Christ of Nazareth? When we get caught up in Christ – supernatural change takes place and we become aware of our own issues and more concerned about others and their growth in Christ as opposed to tearing them down. That requires praying for clear vision, evaluation and surrender to the Lord, then again – praying for the Lord to change those areas that have fallen short and to strengthen those areas that are on point – in our OWN lives. We evaluate under the microscope-interrogate-and berate those around us – our spouses, our kids, our parents, our bosses, our friends, our church leaders, our fellow church members, our co-workers, our politicians, expecting standards that are sometimes impossible to attain to while grossly overlooking glaring issues in ourselves, our behavior, our attitude and the consequences. Paul said, 1 Corinthians 9:27, “I treat my body hard and make it my slave so that I myself will not be disqualified after I have preached to others.”‪#‎TURNYOUREYESUPONJESUS‬

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BABY BOOMERS: This is for you!

“It’ll never last, it’s just a fad,” and with angst and dread I peered down the long hallway into the “new” mid-1980s computer lab in high school my sophomore year. All I could imagine were the long hours of having to sit and learn a new frustrating method of study on a big boxy apparatus called a “computer” with a flashing cursor on the screen, toting floppy disks, seated side by side with students picking up on how to use “it” faster than I ever would. And those Dot Matrix printers? Oh my – those seemed to promise endless miles of perforated-edged paper rolling out onto the floor to become the backdrop of complicated term papers that would sit in a box never to be read again. Thanks, but no thanks, I would rather stick with my pencil and paper notebook.

Yes, I was certain that reality-vs.-the gossip over the forthcoming “internet” seemed as far fetched as a 2099 sci-fi movie scene thinking all of this was way too much to embrace for change. I rather feared the unfamiliar.

Fast forward 30 years, sitting on the edge of 2016, and without a doubt looking back, I am tickled to admit I was wrong about everything promised to offer! As I type away on my MacBook Pro at the moment, glancing at the messages that pop up on my instant message feature while responses are rolling in from many inquiries I have sent out for business, I smile on the memories of the dinosaur computers that started this entire trend so long ago. This once resistant-to-change girl would be one who would flip over all the techi-gadgets she could handle and spend endless hours on the information super highway, and, even find a voice teaching others, namely the baby boomers, “how to” in order to ease their angst over some new daunting feature as I once did.

I discuss and tutor with the boomers who have seen an eyeful of success on line, and yet are trying to figure out how they can take an idea and bring it to life using the tools available for aid as a launching pad, or take a well run business and kick it up a notch, but not get lost in the newest ever changing method for technical advertising.

There is a thriving lucrative communication avenue through time spent wisely on all that is offered at our finger tips, and the newest areas of “socializing” on a computer via social media sites can promise a broad new spectrum in an instant for exposure for business, branding, ministry and more. Once a person chooses to try something new, they can learn methods and trends to reach a much broader audience to with a message, product, or service. Promising and simple, it can happen, and education and a guide through the process is vital.

Let me encourage any reader taking in my story, I had to learn through many hours spent on schooling from those much younger and quicker than I, but soon discovered that once I landed a considerable sized yearly account and even more so the spiritual and emotional benefits to the ministry of a social media presence, the rewards of the result far surpassed the hassle of learning something new. Now it’s an encouragement and exciting place to be, teaching, as a bonafide nerd!

More importantly, I feel it is vital not to slip through the cracks due to the ever evolving computer gadget craze to stay in touch with our younger generation. We, as parents and grandparents, are at a critical place where we need to provide protection by staying in the loop of what our children are into. In the weeks ahead as you face the New Year with high expectations and goals for business, health, and more, add to your list our upcoming webinars and e-book introductions to Social Media 101 Courses as well as information blurbs on the latest for those that have started that want to move into a higher level of exposure on their existing platforms. Visit http://www.mrcconsulting.us that has every thing you need to learn more! Our goal is to teach you how to squeeze every benefit possible from what the on-line information highway has to offer.

See my television interview on this topic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G72NqchKWo8

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