Rare Recording of Details on Corrie ten Boom’s Life

April 1995, marks the date that the Lord spoke His words into my life and set a direction for the future where I would never be the same. Pam Rosewell Moore, pictured with me on the right in the photo included, was assistant, traveling companion and nurse to Corrie ten Boom for the last seven years of her life. That day in April when she spoke as keynote speaker about her own testimony, entitled, Safer Than a Known Way, of the blending of her calling of missions with service to Brother Andrew and Corrie, made an indelible impression on all of us.  It was that day that the Lord inscribed on the tablet of my heart a desire to serve Him wholly and without reserve when I heard His mind-bending whisper, “I have a plan for your life”.

Immediately after that conference, the weekend that changed absolutely everything, fast forward through 17 years to include myriads of studies in God’s Word as a student turned Bible teacher, speaker, entrepreneur, and television personality, never dreaming that the Lord was about to touch my inscribed heart of Corrie’s and Pam’s story, with an addendum of His will to serve Pam as her assistant. The Lord spoke again, almost out of nowhere, and said, “… go help her,” meaning Pam Moore and the ministry in which she now still operates.

Feeling unworthy of His call, and after a thorough search online, there popped into view contact information for Pam, and nearly four months later after much correspondence between us, I was slowly gleaning an idea how the Lord was asking me to help her. It became obvious that I was to be one of many to carry the torch of Corrie’s message forward blending my own calling now with serving Pam in the current status as her assistant. The assistant to the assistant to the Corrie ten Boom? Never dreamed it … Pam often speaks and shares her books on her own story and that of Corrie’s all over the country and the world, and, need I say, I absolutely adore this woman, love to travel with her, and beyond my ability to even know to pray for something like this in the way of work, God has unfolded His promise of the words He whispered to me so many years ago.

I was and am enthralled and humbled at the prospect of being a part of a ministry for several years now that has touched millions of lives since the post-Holocaust missionary Corrie’s story hit the scene with her books and film surrounding around the theme of The Hiding Place. If you, my reader, are not familiar with this story, I HIGHLY encourage you to look into Amazon for the book and film, and prepare yourself for a mammoth blessing! It’s one of the most highly anointed stories still bearing momentum and weight even now all of these years later. It’s timeless.

This past weekend in Pigeon Forge, Tennessee, Pam and I both attended a women’s conference where she shared her testimony and a glimpse of life with Corrie in front of an audience of hundreds. We receive inquiries from all over the world about the historical WWII survivor story as well as many stories people share that met, knew and loved the Ten Boom Family. Your’s truly had the blessed privilege to share a question and answer session with Pam on some of the amusing, painful, and most powerful inside details of Corrie’s life during that time they traveled and lived together all the way to the end of the journey. We hope this will answer many of the questions people have asked for so long. Enjoy our recorded session, and may you be greatly touched, as I was, on the work of the Lord that has influenced over 70 years of followers. It is my deepest joy to share what our God has given in order to carry the torch and pass it on to anyone who will listen. Click link: Pam Moore and ReAnn Ring

As an added note, if you would like to hear that very conference talk Pam did that we heard in 1995, the three part recording from the 1995 tape-to-cd-to mp3 copy of her testimony is included here. It’s the old school flip tape style so it has a shorter section that is part two from the back side of tape one, but you will hear the entirely of the message over the three links. Enjoy – you will be blessed!

SAFER THAN A KNOWN WAY PART ONE

SAFER THAN A KNOWN WAY – PART TWO

SAFER THAN A KNOWN WAY – PART THREE

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15 Highlights from the 2016 National Geographic Nature Photographer of the Year Contest — TwistedSifter

Last call for entries! Contest closes Friday November 4, 2016 National Geographic invites photographers from around the world to enter the 2016 Nature Photographer of the Year contest. The grand-prize winner will receive a 10-day trip for two to the Galápagos with National Geographic Expeditions and two 15-minute image portfolio reviews with National…

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To Married Men Who Cheat

This is from the perspective of a woman, written as a message to married men, men who don’t know Christ, men who do profess Christ, men who are separated and not yet divorced from their spouses, men who are ministers or well-regarded in ministry to some level, men who are deeply in pain with a room mate marriage, men who may have dead marriages pulverized by their wives for whatever reason, or, men that have lost the respect for what marriage vows of faithfulness mean altogether no matter who is to blame. It’s written to those men and even those that may have great marriages with unsuspecting wives, set on trusting you, feeling free, but fooled, to enjoy the fact she has a man that is true.  It’s written to any man who has opted to step outside of their marriage and to pursue another woman >>> the married man who cheats.

Let’s say hypothetically, the woman you could be pursuing, could be me. It might surprise a man how a lady like me truly feels about your passes. I’m not talking as a woman with a Jezebel spirit who has no conscience and may even partake in seducing men, or one that is wounded just as much as you are and feeling like trying on a new relationship regardless of the cost, but rather, the woman who you are pursuing, is the one that is walking with the Lord with all of her heart. As imperfect as she may be, busy about ministry, tending to God’s work, single or married, she isn’t “looking” for an affair, but to you, that may even make her look more enticing and exciting, with her playful, positive, tender-hearted, sensitivity and mystery, and the ideal person that you feel you have been missing out on in your marriage. Perhaps she is even the girl your wife used to have resembled or maybe she’s simply viewed as a refreshing departure from what you have always known.

But here is where we dissect an even deeper truth. Everyone can produce a vulnerable side, and if inspected long enough you will find any woman’s weaknesses, those areas which men are often all too familiar with, and carry that innate need to either lovingly protect that Achille’s Heal of her’s, or, shamefully exploit her in that area altogether. After all you had high hopes for your marriage, both of you and your spouse did, and now that things have settled into everyday life, predictable or miserable, dry and dull, or past the point of no return, you are lonely, certain you are deserving of more, and feel justified in flirting with danger.

After all, it’s your right to be loved and appreciated, desired, in the form of ideal companionship, right? And what about the scenario wanting to use another woman to get even with your spouse, perhaps an on-line connection, with a neighbor, former classmate, church member, or “friend”.

Personally, being the unwilling party on the receiving end of this type of pursuit in my history, I have found it completely and utterly insulting to be thought of as distraction for a married man, no matter his circumstances. I resent men who think so low of me, and I pity the fact you feel so low of yourself to toy and steal my husband’s or future husband’s territory, not to mention that of my heavenly Husband’s right to claim me as His for who He saves me for in marriage.  A woman, who wants to live a life pleasing to the Lord, doesn’t have her sight set on a man coming into her world who has no intention of faithfulness when the going gets tough in his world, only to reduce me to being the cheater along with you.

Have you not read the Ten Commandments or are those regarded as old school and no longer applicable to you? Adultery is explained loud and clear not only there, but in several other places in the Word. Those virtues of the standard of living alone in the Word of God, are enough for me as it explains the consequences of this danger, which I have never found anywhere in anybody’s life to be that of nothing more than regret.  We certainly won’t fix anything by stepping outside the marriage, in an effort to make ourselves feel whole and in fact accomplish quite the opposite which is a tarnished view of virtue. The Lord put this rule into place in order to help His children avoid pain and disaster, which affairs can always offer to men, women, their families, their children, the church, your witness, business, your good name, and on and on the list goes.

Being pursued to be your “other woman” causes a woman to feel disrespected for who she and your wife are in Christ, unworthy in the eyes of any man, of being honored and cherished as the opposite gender, inside or outside of marriage. It is never a blessed endeavor by God’s hand as it heavily dishonors your vows to your wife, no matter what kind of a situation it is, no matter the excuse. The male covering of protection, even that of her brother in Christ who needs to guard his own heart so as not to fall into adultery, is damaged to a great extent by these actions. In general, it taints and erodes away at the respect women have for men as they don’t feel safe, as it’s never an ego boost for a woman following God to encounter being the target for a fall as a good catch who you don’t have to commit yourself to … but rather, another glaring disappointment in men. It totally devalues the prospect of what love is INSIDE of marriage when this happens. And you set me up to be hated by the woman in your life. Your wife, or if you are single, your girlfriend, without a doubt, because I am a female, resent anyone that you have set your eyes on, no matter what the case.

Cheating has so many levels of meaning. Cheating on the Lord, cheating yourself of God’s blessings that comes with obedience, cheating your children of the opportunity to see a cherished couple, their parents, stay in it to win it, which is a pain they will never forget and sets them up for a mother load of trouble in the future. It cheats one of peace, joy, and in the still small hours of the night, it will come back to your mind and soul as a haunting. It just does. If it doesn’t, better check where you are in Christ and how far you have gone away from Him. No one ever said it would be easy and without a test, there is no testimony.

Before you justify your actions to get your “needs” met outside of your consecrated vows of til-death-do-us-part, let’s take a look beyond the first pass you make into the reality of the situation. I understand painful inflammation exists in your current marriage, but how does adding insult to injury help anyone in the situation?  Are you really going to divorce at some point, or it is easier to live in the familiar misery while testing the waters elsewhere? If you are truly ending your  marriage, then take time to pray and seek Christ, and give yourself time to heal before entanglement with another potential divorce set up with a new person. Remember as strange as it sounds to quote Bob Marley, but oh so true from the perspective of one man to another and certainly resonates with women, “the biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman’s love with no intention of loving her.”

If you do pursue something before the end of your current marriage, you are a married man who cheats, and she has lowered herself to becoming a woman who cheats as well. If you cheat with her, you will cheat on her and a new marriage to her can carry with it an anxiety and episodes of suspicion that was never thought possible. She can never trust you, and you will never trust her, and let’s not forget the obvious guilt that can linger later after the dust settles and the wake of destruction is clear and evident.Most of the time, I don’t think married men consider the long-term issues that evolve out of affairs or even the foiled attempts to have an affair, especially amongst the body of believers.

The woman you pursue could be strong, she could be fragile, married or single, emotionally damaged, bored, or a Jezebel, but unless she is someone with no conscience, she too is highly breakable by the price tag of an affair. Do you really intend to cause her to fall from grace and then to be disgraced? Usually the case is that men grow close to someone in an effort to fulfill missing intimacy with their wives using the coping mechanism of indulging into the life of another woman as the way to fix their own emptiness or even a spiraling sexual addiction. Along the way though, they never truly consider the damage of what being unfaithful can mean to their sphere of influence and beyond, or may no longer care even care about what that price tag may be for their business or ministry reputation or the women involved. Since things have grown stale in their marriage,  or maybe due to outrageous volatile arguing and mud slinging, they won’t consider that their actions will continue to worsen the situation causing pain in their wife’s and children’s hearts , the heartache of friends and other family, fellow church members, those that look up to and esteem them, a church body that can be completely divided over infidelity, or the significant risk of  financial ruin for various reasons, venereal “gifts” that never go away and will plague a body and future sex life the rest of you life, and so much more that comes with the package of deception.  And never mind the unbeliever or weak in faith who is watching, thirsty to see if anyone truly lives an authentic Christian life – how about what they perceive in the body of Christ to be true and dependable?

It may appear exciting and quietly scandalous at first with the secrecy of something off-limits, but then again it could go awry and one day be featured on a prime time t.v. episode of “20/20”.  It’s messy, and always has been. I have a close family member who had a husband who cheated while she has always been faithful and loved him. It’s been incredibly sad to see that for decades, the pain and bitterness she feels towards him even after all was said and done as they decided to stay married. He still flirts, and it still hurts. Often, heaven forbid, it seemed they would have been at far greater peace, divorcing so that this “thing” was not always hanging over their heads in an argument and undertone for every situation. It was Biblical grounds for divorce, but they held on and unfortunately never fully recovered from it. When you have small children and a husband crushes your heart with cheating, it doesn’t always mean the end of the marriage, sometimes you both simply get to live with it and the reminder of it until the end of your days. Just chew on that fact for a minute before you indulge for the first time, or even again.

Since I have never been married for many of the reasons I have seen that have caused divorce within the sixteen dissolved marriages in my immediate family, and countless friendships, it drives a long nail into the coffin of desire to ever even want to enter into a possible mindset of even meeting someone to begin with. Paul said it best in I Corinthians 7,  that in marriage, there will be “trouble” and that he was trying to “spare them” from that pain and derailment to their walk with God. Part of the subliminal footnote I feel Paul intended in that passage conveys that two imperfect people with a sin nature, enter into marriage and then place the other person in the marriage responsible for all of their needs to be met, and to make all of their dreams come true. I have had enormous pain just in the dating relationships, with “men of God” who most certainly would have been a disaster to married. It’s pretty much curbed my appetite – but it provides one fact I can rest upon: never married, never been divorced either.

Marriage is an ideal place to find out how giving or selfish we can ultimately be with another person, and the expectation levels we put on each other are far from the ability any human being could ever endeavor to meet, which leads to the obvious and highly expected let down that ensues. After all marriage is about how we can evolve in Christ together as a team, and not about how we can tear each other apart with the microscope looking for “the answer”. God never intended for it to be the whole picture for happiness, but rather a place where “iron sharpens iron” according to Proverbs 27:17, and for the sake of ministering to each other and with each other for those around you. If one falls down the other can pull them up for two are better than one as depicted in Ecclesiastes 4. It’s to glorify the Lord in the way Christ gave Himself up for His bride, the church as her Husbandmen, and for the wife to honor that role and that man. Remember, Jesus never cheats on His bride and she has certainly been a handful for him for centuries now.

Wives, you as well can play party to the problem of a cheating husband. Maybe you have been totally pure and worked as hard as you can on your relationship, blindsided by that gut shocking reveal that the man you loved was not the man you thought you loved. But what if you helped set up this disadvantage for what is now a reality – did you happen to ignore the signs of what was coming?  Did that bitterness and the put downs, the male slamming and bickering happen to lead to a place over the years that your husband just got tired of the stress and felt driven away? Do you refuse counseling? Did you know better than to marry that guy that possibly was unfaithful before you said those nuptials thinking you could change him? Did you marry just to marry or escape another situation only to realize you two were not a life long match? Did you stop being a friend to him, and dismiss intimacy, and became the mother rather than the wife in the marriage? Do you hold pasgt hurts from things of your childhood and other men in your life over your husband’s head as if he needs to pay the price for all of humanity? How about putting a leash on your spouse, did you think pulling him in tighter to your control was the answer? All of this is self serving for both parties involved.

“Perfect love casts out all fear” as I John 4:18 says, but that perfect love needs to be established carefully, with mutual agreement, done over time, and with open and honest transparency. Even if one person is working it harder than the other, at least they know they can put their head on their pillow at night knowing they are doing all things possible to make things work. But if all things are operating out of fear, it will serve as a sinking ship for the bottom of the abyss.

Men are visual, they like to be nurtured, we all like to be nurtured – yes, men, we women desperately need that as much as you do, and when we can’t deepen the communication and be respectful in our quest to get things out on the table for healing and counsel, we heighten the danger for either one in the marriage to seek solace elsewhere. Dr. Henry Wright, a champion on spiritual roots of healing in the ministry God gave him points out many issues that are given for health problems due to lack of nurturing from those we are to receive it from, even including marriage. Check out his amazing ministry at http://www.beinhealth.or.

We also need to take a look around at generational attitudes/curses/sins passed down to the next group growing up behind us, dealing with men and women in a committed situation. Are we sure we are not feeding the fire of generational infidelity by ignoring God’s principles – “love one another” – “do all things heartily as unto the Lord” – not unto the tradition of making men the target of ridicule, and ignore the entire message of I Cor. 13 about L-O-V-E. Are we flirting with danger thinking we can stop at any time? Women are you keeping yourself attractive for your guy? We may not think he notices, but YES, he does. Oh and guys, please don’t fall into that sexist trap that it’s ok for you to have a belly falling over your belt with softened biceps, while expecting your wife to live off of rabbit food and flaunt her rock hard abs and tight end for your viewing pleasure. I don’t mince words here as I have seen the double standard and that expectation can get old quick!

Men, do you put down your wives in the company of friends to fit in with their attitude? Does she feel valued, adored, needed, and protected? Have you set her up to feel bitter against you? And that thing we think is “harmless” with flirting, is absolutely untrue. For the small violation of trust with flirting, means a larger violation of trust is imminent. Flirting can turn into an all out affair and it is painfully disrespectful to your spouse. Caring, God-seeking friends – won’t set each other up for a fall into sin – so making someone that is a friend an object of your flirtation, can be a very dangerous risk on your part.  One of the things we subliminally wish for in seduction is that even though the girl you are chasing may love the Lord and want total commitment to Him, we want her to respond. She is human, and can fall, so when a man who knows better, looks for insecurities, plays on emotions, trying to slowly diminish the boundary lines of what was once – taboo, and justifies his actions due to his miserable emptiness in his marriage, it creates a total breach of safety for all, and Satan sees that nothing and no one is off limits.

The good news is, the Lord has equipped us fully and completely with the ability to be filled with His knowledge by His word, flee immorality, clean up our mind, cling to His Word, and learn from other’s mistakes or our own. One has to be on guard, instant in season and out, and it’s the toughest lesson to learn that the enemy of our souls plants his wiles among the pews and in ministries even outside the church walls, in businesses, and anywhere that people have to interact and where the Holy Spirit dwells. Target practice is common place especially if believers are not on guard. And honestly, I would rather see a cordial end to a marriage that is simply out of fuel, both parties completely spent and done, LONG before one tries out another new relationship, and only then, after a time of counseling and reflection. We don’t want a repeat of what just happened.

My goal is not to shame and berate, but simply to plant a checklist in the mind for future reference, if you will, that will give you guys something incredibly profound to consider before deciding to open the door to share intimacy with another woman to fill your void, instead of the Lord doing the healing in your marriage.  Hitting on a single or married woman, who is entrusting you as a friend, a minister, a best friend’s husband, is wickedly demeaning to women in general, and puts her into a place that is painfully awkward and uncomfortable.  What is she supposed to do if she turns you down and you keep insisting? Are you willing for her to expose your intentions? What do you expect from someone who might eventually cave in and then you find yourself being pursued in return by someone you never meant to go “that far with” emotionally? Why would you foster intimacy with someone who can’t have you? How cruel. And why would you continue to put another women into a place that skews her entire perception of how solid and strong a man can be in Christ when he does things RIGHT?

Marriage is a beautiful sacred gift from the Lord, one I fully respect and even protect by not wanting to advocate as a deterrent to a man’s purity. In and of itself, marriage is a ministry that requires total devotion and care and we have to be willing to go the distance by understanding that if we don’t put the Lord first, we set ourselves up for a sad ending. There can be incredible joy shared between a husband and wife, but how about when we self sabotage that opportunity? Even if a divorce is imminent, you will rarely be trusted fully again in a new relationship due to the obvious. Furthermore, to try to pull another woman, an unwilling one into this is pretty dark and sad.

Let’s also bring up the area of internet pornography and chat rooms as a “safer” means of cheating – after all you are only entertaining the mind and won’t even lay a hand on her – right? But stop for a second and consider these facts;  I recently learned more of the sex trade from those involved in the mission of rescue, that often times these men and women on the other side of the camera are trapped in slavery, and forced to work up to twelve hours a day performing for the camera to make a living. They are scarred, beaten, treated brutally, sore, and tired from putting on an internet show for someone. Even if your eyes and mind entertain the untouchable physically, it definitely pierces the soul regardless and violates the vows for trust. The Scripture verse Hebrew 13:4 that says, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous,” bears some pretty heavy weight with it and seems rather terrifying to someone who knows that unless they repent of this, get the help they need, and fall headlong into the Lord’s ability to heal, there is a sobering expectation in the long run. It’s even worse, when one does know that truth and still chooses to defy God’s warning.

But let’s look at the fact that there is hope, if two shall agree to get the help they need to safeguard against adultery, or the repeat of adultery. Infidelity, sin, for whatever reason, in whatever form, will never produce the righteousness of God. In the mean time, let’s do our best to remember that truth of the matter and work to overcome the desire to cause another one to stumble along with us. To finish off my ending note, what can we do to prevent a disaster and unwanted outcome in marriage, and when do men need to know that professional Godly counsel is in order to prevent further damage?

Checklist:

  1. For men and for women – do I need to get counseling in my marriage even if I am doing it alone? Do I have a sexual addiction? (There are volumes of places to help with this.)
  2. Do I spend time flirting with the opposite sex calling it harmless, and even convincing myself that this flattery is making them feel worthy and needed?
  3. Do I have a history of infidelity and should I avoid certain types of women that may trigger a desire to step out on my marriage? Should I really be on social media, or stay in the same realm of work on that floor of the church, with “her”?
  4. Am I calloused to my spouses needs and have I become less and less convicted about the idea of cheating? Wives are you pushing your man away and berating him with a honey-do list and income as his means of existence for you?
  5. Am I spending time in God’s Word daily and pursuing the heart the of the Lord to prevent issues even in thought, that could lead to infidelity?
  6. Is my marriage truly over? Have I tried everything to make it work, and have I been totally transparent with my spouse that temptation sits at the door if we don’t work on things together?
  7. Did I see some warning flags with my spouse before I married them? Could I have prevented heartache ahead of time? Was she cheating with you and now she is cheating on you? Were you the one cheating and thinking the next marriage would fix whatever it was that was broken?
  8. Am I lying to myself that flirting with anyone, is harmless? ) All marital infidelity begins with flirting.)
  9. Do I really want to hurt someone I say I care for? My wife, the ministry, my children, the church body, unbelievers who are looking for hope, and the other woman I encounter?
  10. Are there generational issues of infidelity in my family that I need to be freed from? Can I truly be the one that breaks the line of the curse? Of course you can!

I pray for blessings on you as you read this and take it to heart. There are so many blessings when we ourselves remain personally healthy and attach ourselves to the same. The Lord has a great plan for you, according to Jeremiah 29:11-13, and that would include freeing you from the stronghold of infidelity. God bless you as you endeavor to overcome.

Suggested reading: The Fantasy Fallacy – Shannon Ethridge

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Under the Micropscope

Challenge: To take our eyes off of everyone else and put them squarely back on Jesus. To work on our own personal growth while not losing sight to care and pray for others. Can you imagine if we spent as much time introspectively on ourselves for improvement as opposed to self-righteously pointing at and blaming everyone else and be ultra concerned about seeking the heart of and pleasing Jesus Christ of Nazareth? When we get caught up in Christ – supernatural change takes place and we become aware of our own issues and more concerned about others and their growth in Christ as opposed to tearing them down. That requires praying for clear vision, evaluation and surrender to the Lord, then again – praying for the Lord to change those areas that have fallen short and to strengthen those areas that are on point – in our OWN lives. We evaluate under the microscope-interrogate-and berate those around us – our spouses, our kids, our parents, our bosses, our friends, our church leaders, our fellow church members, our co-workers, our politicians, expecting standards that are sometimes impossible to attain to while grossly overlooking glaring issues in ourselves, our behavior, our attitude and the consequences. Paul said, 1 Corinthians 9:27, “I treat my body hard and make it my slave so that I myself will not be disqualified after I have preached to others.”‪#‎TURNYOUREYESUPONJESUS‬

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BABY BOOMERS: This is for you!

“It’ll never last, it’s just a fad,” and with angst and dread I peered down the long hallway into the “new” mid-1980s computer lab in high school my sophomore year. All I could imagine were the long hours of having to sit and learn a new frustrating method of study on a big boxy apparatus called a “computer” with a flashing cursor on the screen, toting floppy disks, seated side by side with students picking up on how to use “it” faster than I ever would. And those Dot Matrix printers? Oh my – those seemed to promise endless miles of perforated-edged paper rolling out onto the floor to become the backdrop of complicated term papers that would sit in a box never to be read again. Thanks, but no thanks, I would rather stick with my pencil and paper notebook.

Yes, I was certain that reality-vs.-the gossip over the forthcoming “internet” seemed as far fetched as a 2099 sci-fi movie scene thinking all of this was way too much to embrace for change. I rather feared the unfamiliar.

Fast forward 30 years, sitting on the edge of 2016, and without a doubt looking back, I am tickled to admit I was wrong about everything promised to offer! As I type away on my MacBook Pro at the moment, glancing at the messages that pop up on my instant message feature while responses are rolling in from many inquiries I have sent out for business, I smile on the memories of the dinosaur computers that started this entire trend so long ago. This once resistant-to-change girl would be one who would flip over all the techi-gadgets she could handle and spend endless hours on the information super highway, and, even find a voice teaching others, namely the baby boomers, “how to” in order to ease their angst over some new daunting feature as I once did.

I discuss and tutor with the boomers who have seen an eyeful of success on line, and yet are trying to figure out how they can take an idea and bring it to life using the tools available for aid as a launching pad, or take a well run business and kick it up a notch, but not get lost in the newest ever changing method for technical advertising.

There is a thriving lucrative communication avenue through time spent wisely on all that is offered at our finger tips, and the newest areas of “socializing” on a computer via social media sites can promise a broad new spectrum in an instant for exposure for business, branding, ministry and more. Once a person chooses to try something new, they can learn methods and trends to reach a much broader audience to with a message, product, or service. Promising and simple, it can happen, and education and a guide through the process is vital.

Let me encourage any reader taking in my story, I had to learn through many hours spent on schooling from those much younger and quicker than I, but soon discovered that once I landed a considerable sized yearly account and even more so the spiritual and emotional benefits to the ministry of a social media presence, the rewards of the result far surpassed the hassle of learning something new. Now it’s an encouragement and exciting place to be, teaching, as a bonafide nerd!

More importantly, I feel it is vital not to slip through the cracks due to the ever evolving computer gadget craze to stay in touch with our younger generation. We, as parents and grandparents, are at a critical place where we need to provide protection by staying in the loop of what our children are into. In the weeks ahead as you face the New Year with high expectations and goals for business, health, and more, add to your list our upcoming webinars and e-book introductions to Social Media 101 Courses as well as information blurbs on the latest for those that have started that want to move into a higher level of exposure on their existing platforms. Visit http://www.mrcconsulting.us that has every thing you need to learn more! Our goal is to teach you how to squeeze every benefit possible from what the on-line information highway has to offer.

See my television interview on this topic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G72NqchKWo8

—ReAnn (Social Media Advisor and Business Consultant for MRC Consulting at http://www.mrcconsulting.us)

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Hating Ourselves and How to Overcome It

Why do we hate ourselves and is there any hope to help us like or even love ourselves?

Ladies and gents, stop putting yourselves down in front of the mirror, under your breath or out loud – whether alone or especially in front of your children because they are 50% of you, or anyone else within your sphere of influence. This is a highly toxic way of thinking and living.

What kind of a message does it give to others when we do this because nothing will ever seem “acceptable” as everyone is so down on what God has made? Catch yourself when you say the words, “I hate myself, my bulges – wrinkles – nose, my hair looks awful, I am not as pretty as she is, her body is so much better than mine, my body as a man or my ability to provide or my masculinity is never enough.”

Most especially discipline yourself not to insult your intelligence and character with, “I’m such a loser, a failure, I never can get anywhere, haven’t accomplished anything, no wonder he left, who would want me, I blew it again you idiot, I could never be a good enough parent, my ideas will flop, my business will fail, there is no way to kick this habit, I’m doomed, it’s over, and never should have been born.”

… and on and on.

So I am sending out an edict from the KING to all the ladies and gentlemen of the land, with a royal signet ring seal and an order that reads >>>> “STOP THAT. I, the Lord God, took time to think you through and put you together in My mind before the foundations of the earth and formed you in your mama’s belly. You are insulting My work with your thoughts and words and deeds. Your value and you’re worth does not lie in what you think of yourself or anyone else. It lies in what I say about you. I said to love others as you love yourself, so how can we be of any good to others if we can’t get the basic fact down that you are lovely and stunning in MY eyes? I hereby order you to LOVE what I made YOU to be for MY glory and no one else’s. Speak my truths and not that of the enemy. That’s an order. You are loved and adored every single day.”

I have been learning through a fabulous study with Dr. Henry Wright of the Be In Health Ministry is Thomaston, Ga. (www.beinhealth.com), that every time we self-deprecate, we are agreeing with an Anti-Christ spirit … oh yes we are … because Christ does not say these things about us! HELLO, so why are WE assuming we are qualified to say them?

Furthermore, that voice you hear … may not be YOURS, but that of the enemy … it’s in agreement with an Anti-Christ mentality. It makes our negative view “a god and an idol” who rules our brain and then we make less than honorable decisions because our idea of what is worthy is skewed. Those decisions can grossly effect our lives and can escalate into serious illnesses in the body that are deemed “incurable” (nothing is incurable), cause us to hate and not forgive and put way too much emphasis on another imperfect struggling person to fulfill a need only God can fill.

We become numb and enable and soothe our numbness with food, medicate with alcohol, drugs, and meds, ignore the pleas of those around us that say they wish we could see ourselves from their perspective, race hard to find a way to defy aging, compete to win with others and not as a good sport, exercise to no avail, overcompensate with our jobs and income, overspend, and pressure and push a round peg into a square hole to the damage of everything around it. Simply because we are spinning out of balance inside of our beings and don’t know how to stop it.

Try this first, as it will change your life and watch how things turn around. Substitute those words with, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made, I am valued, the Lord has a big plan for my life, He took the time to create me and give me gifts, talents, and a skill set, no matter what my deformities, shortcomings, or sinful failures past present and even future might present as a detourant.”

Secondly, pray about it as you say it. Even if you are stuck in sin daily with an overwhelming stronghold, talk to HIM anyway. He will deliver – He always does.

Thirdly, consider that your health could be a consequence of generational sin, your self attack, and issues of the past and present that are working against your health rather than providing a way to help you thrive.

Fourthly and I LOVE this one … Something a counselor has been helping me with has been radically effective in helping me soar above the trenches of despair and ruination. She told me to record my emotions for a few days or weeks every hour on the hour and acknowledge what I am feeling, and then …. do NOT judge them good or bad. They are emotions, feel them, acknowledge and accept them, lean into them and don’t stuff them. Shame is a big one I have wrestled with over anything small and insignificant all the way to the biggees I feel are unforgivable in my life. I had NO idea I was on such a roller coaster ride every day until I recorded it, figured out what the emotions were tethered to, and then understood that it is not a shameful thing to do a basic thing God gave us … to feel. It’s ok to feel disappointment, fierce anger, wrath, pain, sorrow, joy, intimidation, attracted and attractive, and not have to skewer them as a means of killing them like they are little bad people and then hiding the bodies. Yes, we are to be careful what we DO with what we feel, but the auto-pilot actions we take to numb feelings are far more threatening than to actually arrest the moment when we are hurt or praised or whatever, and accept it good or bad, and then go on in the next moment … without ANY shame or guilt.

Pretty soon the numbing agents listed above will lost their power as we begin to crave less and less the things we think are helping us hobble along. The Lord meant for us to run valiantly in overcoming and not just muddle through like an invalid.

Worthiness does not lie in whether a marriage or any other relationship failed or not, whether or not you stepped out in an affair or almost did, that you gained all that weight back and the scale is screaming that hideous number, what your parents or a bully said when you were younger or still say to you now, or the way a boss treats you, what a stupid magazine says you should be like, what your spouse says, it does not lie in the fact you were sexually molested or raped, or that you were overlooked on the ball team for a position, what the size of your britches are, or the numbers of zeroes on your income, or even how YOU treat you.

Exercise some compassion and kindness on your life and soul and watch how chasing out negative self talk will lift your life out of the pits of self destruction. It will take awhile to redo and rethink. To reposition your ammo as a warrior over darkness rather than one who is “managing” their issues which only serves to set one back five steps for every single one they take.

Slow down, think, acknowledge, be reasonable with yourself, learn to say “no”, put up proper boundary lines, divorce old voices, embrace your unique self HE made you to be, try “it” again 20 more times even if doesn’t work or learn to move on. The Lord SAID He had a plan for my life, and I believe Him but hating myself was only serving as a catalyst to push me deeper into Who He says I am and how forgivable He finds me.

Note: I HIGHLY recommend counseling for anything you are dealing with and do your marriage, your heart, your singleness, your children, your business, and relationships a massive favor and study through the Be In Health material. You will find a depth of teaching like nothing you have ever see before on healing from the inside out.

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